I have been around the block enough time to know better and yet I am still flabbergasted by my ability to not follow my own advice. Last night, I get a message from a friend…“I have a headache, can you send me some healing please?”
A simple enough request and one that was easily fulfilled. I won’t go into the understandings behind healing, sending and any other logistical concerns. If you don’t believe that it can be done. Fair enough.
However what I will go into is the backlash that I got. Of course I had grounded and protected myself. It’s standard operating procedure. Given that, I was surprised when a few minutes after completing the ceremony (yes there is one) that I began to get a headache of my own. It was only a small one to start off with but then as time (mere minutes) passed it grew into a stinking big one.

Now, I don’t normally suffer from headaches and certainly not something akin to this. I mean seriously! This was a truck-load of ache and no mistake. Sometimes, healer heal thyself, doesn’t enter into the equation since the affliction knocks out ones own capacity to heal. Bummer when that happens. In such instances one is sometimes left with the drug method of healing.
Even after popping a few pills this monster was little abated. Have you ever had pain to the extent that you utter (perhaps with only a smidgen of seriousness) “I’d rather be dead than suffer this?” It is a statement that I have only once before uttered and in fact in similar circumstances…another story.
Anyway there I was, laid out and in between gasps of pain, pondering the why of it all. I was sure by then that this headache was a backlash along the connection. But why so strong. Surely my friend wasn’t suffering to this extent? This was a get to the hospital kind of pain to be sure. Another point on my mind was the protection and grounding. What had happened to that?
Well, after ministering to myself for a couple of hours I was able to rid myself of this pain-filled burden and had strength enough to question my behaviour and experience.
Here is the thing that I knew but forgot. Protection isn’t perfect, nor is it complete, nor is it infinitely strong. Every one of those factors has influences. And indeed there are many other factors too. An important point to note is diagnostics. If you are a therapist of any kind you will know that it is important to get data on the condition and the person in the condition. Healing 101 right!? In my defence though, how many times have you heard for a request for healing and just upped and sent some?
What happened to the due diligence? What happened to after care? What happened to the sense of responsibility? Do these even play a part in this scenario? Interesting questions.
Today, I got in touch (after-care) with my friend and she told me that the headache had been that bad that she had collapsed and had wanted to die it was that painful. Interesting, right? If I had known this before hand, had I done things differently? You bet your bottom dollar I would.
So it seems that lesson still needs to unfold in me. Be concerned with what you are about.
Addendum:
You might be asking, as Chris just did, “Was this avoidable?” The answer was yes and required two things (as the dowsing rods informed me) :
- Extra protection in the form of an Amethyst on my Crown and a Flourite on my Brow chakra.
- Extra grounding using the skills I had learned in Brittany using the Earth element.

